I know we didn’t get into solutions in part one, but bear with me through all four ‘discovery’ parts of the dating system, and we will wrap it all up in the end.
In this post, we focus on The Meet. All double entendres aside, this is about your ability to effectively engage potential suitors. We will assume that you have mastered part 1, and you are now encountering people on a regular basis. Are you meeting them? By this, I mean, are you meeting/ flirting/ creating dates? Let’s be fair. Don’t count saying hello. Only count effective conversations that lead to dating.
What makes someone a master of The Meet:
- Get Noticed
- Flirt/ Show Interest
- Start a Conversation
- Make an Offer
As I list these things, I am realizing that this is quite similar to sales. We are our product, so that makes sense. What I often find, is that single people have a lot of preconceived ideas around this topic. They say things like, “If it’s meant to be, it will just happen” or “I don’t want to work a system, things shouldn’t feel forced”. I agree with both of those statements. However, usually they are said by people who are using them as an excuse not to try.
The people who are truly great at meeting new people have done it so many times that it is effortless to them. They have mastered this to make it look effortless. As in sales, snow skiing, and basketball, things look easy with practice.
So let’s look again at these, and determine where you need practice.
Get Noticed. This may sound harsh, but if you are single and running to the grocery store in your pajamas, you fail this section. All errands have opportunity in them. Getting noticed means taking your product (yourself) seriously. Make an effort to put yourself together every time you leave the house. Getting noticed also means putting your radar on. Don’t be so task driven that you fail to notice someone in the check out line. Train yourself to scan the store and to make eye contact. Make an effort to be seen.
Start a Conversation. Look for a chance to say something. Find the opportunity in the situation. You are at a grocery store, and the guy in line behind you is doing some serious checking you out. You have already returned the favor. Now, strike up a conversation. Don’t be shy to say things like, “I have no patience for these lines. I always choose the worst one.” Or “Are you gearing up for the snow, too?”
I know fear is striking through your heart right now. But what is the worst that can happen?
Make an Offer. I’m not talking about handing out business cards or proposals. I’m saying make a convenient offer. Here is an easy one. “Here’s my number if you want to text me during the storm.” Or “If you get bored during the storm, find me on Facebook. My name is….”.
Whether it is a blizzard, the Superbowl, or another current event, there is always a reason to make an offer. These are things you can practice in advance so you have them ready to go
As I list these things, I am realizing that this is quite similar to sales. We are our product, so that makes sense. What I often find, is that single people have a lot of preconceived ideas around this topic. They say things like, “If it’s meant to be, it will just happen” or “I don’t want to work a system, things shouldn’t feel forced”. I agree with both of those statements. However, usually they are said by people who are using them as an excuse not to try.
The people who are truly great at meeting new people have done it so many times that it is effortless to them. They have mastered this to make it look effortless. As in sales, snow skiing, and basketball, things look easy with practice.
So let’s look again at these, and determine where you need practice.
Get Noticed. This may sound harsh, but if you are single and running to the grocery store in your pajamas, you fail this section. All errands have opportunity in them. Getting noticed means taking your product (yourself) seriously. Make an effort to put yourself together every time you leave the house. Getting noticed also means putting your radar on. Don’t be so task driven that you fail to notice someone in the check out line. Train yourself to scan the store and to make eye contact. Make an effort to be seen.
Start a Conversation. Look for a chance to say something. Find the opportunity in the situation. You are at a grocery store, and the guy in line behind you is doing some serious checking you out. You have already returned the favor. Now, strike up a conversation. Don’t be shy to say things like, “I have no patience for these lines. I always choose the worst one.” Or “Are you gearing up for the snow, too?”
I know fear is striking through your heart right now. But what is the worst that can happen?
Make an Offer. I’m not talking about handing out business cards or proposals. I’m saying make a convenient offer. Here is an easy one. “Here’s my number if you want to text me during the storm.” Or “If you get bored during the storm, find me on Facebook. My name is….”.
Whether it is a blizzard, the Superbowl, or another current event, there is always a reason to make an offer. These are things you can practice in advance so you have them ready to go when the opportunity presents itself.
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